Here we are yet again. Another year has flown by and we are getting ready to welcome 2020. Whether you’ve been ready to kiss 2019 goodbye for awhile now or maybe you want time to slow down because you had a great year, this is the perfect opportunity to reflect on what this year has brought you.
Every month, I’m all about intention setting and filling your life with more things that serve you and trying to eliminate (or cope with) those things that don’t. In preparation for the new year, I am looking back at what 2019 brought me (the good, the bad and the ugly) and what I’ve learned from every situation. I hope you’ll join me in reflecting on 2019 and taking some time to appreciate where you are in life, knowing that it’s right where you’re supposed to be.
As always, I’ve put together some food-for-thought questions that can also be used as journal prompts.
- What is something good that happened to me this year?
- What is something that was difficult for me this year?
- How did I grow this year?
- What is something I accomplished this year? (Don’t be hard on yourself here. I don’t care if you cuddled with your dog more. Everyone’s accomplishments look different.
- What is something I would like to leave behind in 2019?
- What is something I would like to do more of in the new year?
- What is something I did for myself in 2019?
- What is something I will do for myself in the new year?
Photography by: Kimberly Rensburg Photography
Outfit: bodysuit from American Eagle, skirt from Express, jacket from T.J. Maxx, necklace from H&M and shoes from Sam Edelman.
Happy new year!
Have you ever heard of writing down your feelings in a letter to someone but never actually sending it? It’s something new I’ve been trying out the past few months and wanted to share my experience so far! We’ve all had feelings of anger towards someone, but anger is said to be a secondary emotion.
Writing out a letter to that person can help you dive deeper into your feelings and uncover what’s beneath that anger. The more we hold onto those negative feelings without letting them out, the closer we are to a breakdown (trust me, I’ve been there many times and it’s not fun). Writing a letter expressing your feelings towards someone and the things that you want to say to them, can help you process your emotions and find clarity in the situation. For me, it’s provided a sense of relief and allows me to assess why something or someone is bothering me.
Once you’re done writing your letter, rip that baby up, throw it in the trash or better yet, burn it and come up with a mantra to help you physically, mentally and emotionally LET IT GO. It may feel weird at first to write a letter that you’re not going to send, but just go with it! Let your emotions and the pen do the work and see what comes out when you start to be vulnerable. You may uncover some things that you didn’t even know were bothering you.
Is anyone else a ‘yes’ person? I tend to use this word way too often and forget that I have the choice to say ‘no’. I’ve found myself saying ‘yes’ to things I don’t even want to do!
I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a post that said “Stop saying yes to shit you hate.” This one really resonated with me because I am exactly that person (and I know many other people are too). I am always saying ‘yes’ because I never want to disappoint someone if I say ‘no’.
Most recently, I’ve realized that my cup runneth over and I don’t have enough time (or energy) to keep saying ‘yes’ to everything. That whole speech they give you before you take off on a plane about putting on your oxygen mask first before helping someone else, totally makes sense. We have to take care of ourselves before taking care of others. Show up for you first!
Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you selfish or weak. It also doesn’t mean that you need to give anyone a super long explanation when you say ‘no’ (something I’m still working on). Obviously, this advice should be taken with a grain of salt (please don’t tell your boss ‘no’ when it comes to finishing a project). Say ‘no’ to the things in your life that are taking too much of your energy and aren’t bringing you joy- Marie Kondo your time.
If you would rather stay in for the night because you’ve had a stressful week, then do that instead of going out. If you want to silence your phone because you are craving peace and quiet, go for it. It’s not always easy to say ‘no’, especially if you’re not used to doing it (take it from me). It takes courage, so be kind to yourself. Put yourself first once in awhile and give yourself what you need.