Stop Saying ‘Yes’ All The Time

Stop Saying ‘Yes’ All The Time

Is anyone else a ‘yes’ person? I tend to use this word way too often and forget that I have the choice to say ‘no’. I’ve found myself saying ‘yes’ to things I don’t even want to do!

I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a post that said “Stop saying yes to shit you hate.” This one really resonated with me because I am exactly that person (and I know many other people are too). I am always saying ‘yes’ because I never want to disappoint someone if I say ‘no’.

Most recently, I’ve realized that my cup runneth over and I don’t have enough time (or energy) to keep saying ‘yes’ to everything. That whole speech they give you before you take off on a plane about putting on your oxygen mask first before helping someone else, totally makes sense. We have to take care of ourselves before taking care of others. Show up for you first!

Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you selfish or weak. It also doesn’t mean that you need to give anyone a super long explanation when you say ‘no’ (something I’m still working on). Obviously, this advice should be taken with a grain of salt (please don’t tell your boss ‘no’ when it comes to finishing a project). Say ‘no’ to the things in your life that are taking too much of your energy and aren’t bringing you joy- Marie Kondo your time.

If you would rather stay in for the night because you’ve had a stressful week, then do that instead of going out. If you want to silence your phone because you are craving peace and quiet, go for it. It’s not always easy to say ‘no’, especially if you’re not used to doing it (take it from me). It takes courage, so be kind to yourself. Put yourself first once in awhile and give yourself what you need.

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

October Intentions

October Intentions

Somehow it’s already October, which means another month to set intentions or in my case, try harder to work on last month’s intentions (hey, no one’s perfect). It also means it’s the season of watching Hocus Pocus and Halloween Town. In all seriousness, I believe that a new month symbolizes new beginnings and a fresh start.

Here’s what I’m focusing on this month:

  • Recite affirmations to myself daily in the mirror (don’t knock it until you’ve tried it)
  • Avoid spending money when I’m bored or upset (an intention I set for September and am still working on)
  • Cook more and try new recipes
  • Disconnect and unplug more to enjoy quality time with loved ones
  • Unfollow accounts that are no longer bringing me joy (Marie Kondo your social media)

Set your own October Intentions! If you need some a little inspiration or guidance in setting your own intentions, I’ve put together a worksheet to help you. If you want to share your intentions, comment below or tag me on Instagram @geenicolette.

Outfit details: Sweater: Hazyl Boutique, Bralette: Enzee Boutique, Jeans: Athleta, Bag: 2 Sisters Boutique, Necklace: Francesca’s

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

October Intentions

October Intentions

Somehow it’s already October, which means another month to set intentions or in my case, try harder to work on last month’s intentions (hey, no one’s perfect). It also means it’s the season of watching Hocus Pocus and Halloween Town. In all seriousness, I believe that a new month symbolizes new beginnings and a fresh start.

Here’s what I’m focusing on this month:

  • Recite affirmations to myself daily in the mirror (don’t knock it until you’ve tried it)
  • Avoid spending money when I’m bored or upset (an intention I set for September and am still working on)
  • Cook more and try new recipes
  • Disconnect and unplug more to enjoy quality time with loved ones
  • Unfollow accounts that are no longer bringing me joy (Marie Kondo your social media)

Set your own October Intentions! If you need some a little inspiration or guidance in setting your own intentions, I’ve put together a worksheet to help you. If you want to share your intentions, comment below or tag me on Instagram @geenicolette.

Outfit details: Sweater: Hazyl Boutique, Bralette: Enzee Boutique, Jeans: Athleta, Bag: 2 Sisters Boutique, Necklace: Francesca’s

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

Think Before You ‘Gram

Think Before You ‘Gram

A constant struggle for me (and I’m sure others out there) is knowing when to put down the phone and just enjoy the moment. Anyone else guilty of staging a scene so you can get the perfect Instagram photo? It’s exhausting. Always trying to make everything look like it’s ‘perfect’ when in reality behind the flat lay of beauty products is a messy bathroom with makeup all over and an overflowing laundry basket.

Recently, I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and when the food arrived to the table he pushed everything to the center so I can get a picture (he knows the drill). He knows by now that my Instagram followers see my food before I actually consume it, but for the first time in awhile, I told him to just start eating so we could enjoy the meal while it was freshly made.

While I think it’s great to snap some pictures to capture a moment you want to remember, it’s just as important to be present during those occasions and to enjoy special moments to the fullest. What if we minimized how much we share on our Instagram? What if we shared content with intention rather than searching for likes? I’m guilty of not sharing certain photos because I’m fearful they won’t get a lot of engagement.

Besides, Instagram is all about algorithms anyways so likes don’t mean much anymore. I love following accounts that use their platform for good. I would like to see more influencers doing that and using their voice and influence to make a difference!

Instagram and other social media accounts should be fun. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case when there are people who are struggling, triggered by certain accounts, being bullied, etc.

Live your life to the fullest. Sometimes that means taking some pictures and other times it means putting your phone away. Let’s all work on finding the balance in both! Don’t be afraid to unfollow accounts that are triggering or don’t resonate well with you!

Here’s some of my favorite accounts to follow:

What accounts do you follow for inspiration?

Think before you ‘gram.

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

September Intentions

September Intentions

If you’ve been keeping up with my blog then you know I love setting intentions each month. These are things that I’m striving to work on. I always encourage you guys to do the same but I know it can be tricky to come up with on your own! To help you set your own intentions for September, I’ve put together a worksheet.

Keep reading to find out what intentions I am setting this month.

My September intentions:

  • Spend more time outside and exploring nearby places
  • Enjoy time with loved ones
  • Pause throughout the day and take 3 long rounds of breath
  • Avoid spending money when I’m bored or am in a bad mood (yes, if you know me then you know retail therapy is my jam)
  • Practice 1 form of self-care every day

Top: Own Your Stigma, Leggings: Joriki

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

Small Changes to Relieve Daily Stress

Small Changes to Relieve Daily Stress

Ever have those days that seem like you just can’t catch a break? You wake up feeling rushed and are in a hurry to get to your destination on time. I’m sharing a few tips to help relieve unnecessary stress (let’s face it, we can all shed some stress from our lives).

  1. Pick out your outfit the night before work. This is a big one for me! I feel more put-together when my outfit is picked out and I can get ready in the morning with ease.
  2. Unplug before bed. Give yourself 30 minutes to an hour before bed to stop scrolling through social media and let your mind (and eyes) rest before sleeping.
  3. Spend 5 minutes in the morning to yourself. Set your alarm clock 5 minutes earlier and be still. I like to sit in the dark with my oil diffuser on and enjoy the quietness before starting my day. It’s also a great time to meditate or get in some stretching.
  4. Breathing exercises. Spend time throughout your day taking deep breaths. Set reminders on your phone to take deep breaths (I like to count to 4 on my inhalations & exhalations). Release your tongue from the roof of your mouth. Relax your shoulders away from your ears. Unclench your jaw. Just let go of tension in your body.
  5. Drink water. Staying hydrated can keep your stress levels down. Enough said.
  6. Get your body moving. Get up and stretch, go for a walk or workout. Do something to clear your mind and get any built up tension out.

Wearing the Mantra Tee in Black and Black Mesh Legging from Joriki. My followers get 15% off with code: GINA15

Have any tips you want to share for stress relief? Comment below!

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

But First, Self-Love

But First, Self-Love

With Valentine’s Day approaching this week, there’s a lot of talk about love. Whether you are celebrating love with your significant other, family member, friend or even your furry pet, any kind of love is beautiful, but the relationship we need to focus on is with ourselves. The media talks a lot about self-care rituals (which looks different for us all) but what we need to prioritize is self-love and actually speaking positively to ourselves internally. 
I recently took a spin class where they put our stats up on the board and showed us our rank a few times throughout the class. This is when I realized the importance of self-love and having positive internal conversations with yourself. When I switched to a positive mindset, it made pushing through the class a lot easier, versus having negative thoughts and telling myself, “You aren’t good or strong enough.” and guess whatduring that last sprint in class I kicked my name a few spots higher up on the rank list
If there’s ever a time where you doubt yourself or are maybe feeling down/overwhelmed by all of this Valentine’s Day talk this week, I have come up with a few journal exercises to help you remember you are loved and that you truly are a total badass. 

Grab your journal and start writing:

Today I have accomplished _____
I feel proud of myself when _____
I feel the happiest when I’m doing _____
3 things that bring me peace are _____
My favorite feature about myself is _____
Necklace: Bali Malas
Shoes:Adidas
Remember, you are a total badass. 
XOXO,
Gee Nicolette