What Therapy Has Taught Me Part 2

Back in June 2020 I was inspired to write a blog post ‘What Therapy Has Taught Me’, so here I am with a part 2. There’s no doubt that in going to therapy you learn a lot about yourself and how to communicate and navigate relationships with others around you. I wanted to share a few more things that I’ve learned throughout my time in therapy and things that I am working on.

You don’t have to respond to someone right away. You don’t need to be the person who texts back immediately (I used to think I had to be). Think, breathe, and then respond when you are ready. If you’re not in a good place emotionally and mentally, take some to self-care and come back to the message when you are ready.

When people show you who they are, believe them. This one is kind of self-explanatory but it’s so true. Fighting for relationships with people who don’t put in the effort to fight back, aren’t worth your time or energy. You can peacefully and respectfully set boundaries with that person.

Not all relationships will look the same. Going back to my last point of setting boundaries – evaluate your relationships with others. What category do they fall under? Are they your best friend or are they someone you discuss reality TV drama with? It’s okay not to have 20 best friends!

A support system is so important. Whether it be blood relatives or your chosen family, a support system is necessary. Think about your core people who validate your feelings, support, and love you. As hard as it is to say sometimes, we need each other.

Make yourself a priority. Take some time to learn more about yourself. Learn your love language, your communication style, your attachment style, etc. Once you get to know more about yourself – the things you admire and the things you want to work, your relationship with others will start to make more sense. Take the time you need to focus on self-growth – read books, journal, meditate, go for walks, or whatever it is that you do to connect with yourself.

Trauma is trauma, it’s all valid. No one’s trauma is more or less important than another’s. Remember that what you’ve been through is unique to you, try not to compare yourself to others.

Being uncomfortable sucks, but that’s when you start to see change and growth. There’s a quote that says “Great things never came from comfort zones.” When you feel uncomfortable, that means you’re challenging yourself and growing from it. Setting boundaries, saying no, not texting back right away, etc. are all uncomfortable things if you’re not used to doing them. Focus on the growth and progress you’re making when you’re feeling uncomfortable.

You have survived your worst days. Shit is hard, but you will get through it just like you always have. Seek support from your support system, therapist, or other professional if you need. You’re not weak if you ask for help. Help can even look like asking for a hug from someone or asking them to hold space and listen to you.

Give yourself grace. Working on yourself, doing self-reflection, self-growth work, and boundary setting is A LOT. Give yourself a pat on the back. You’re human, you’re going to make mistakes. If you mess up, know that it’s okay and try to move on from it. If you don’t stick to a boundary one day, recognize it and learn for next time.

Some resources for mental health and how to seek help are below:

Xoxo,

Gee Nicolette

2021 Intention Setting

I’m just going to come out and say it, 2020 has been one hell of a year. Despite all of the really hard and heavy times, there have been some really great moments in between. While it might be difficult to focus on the positive, I’ve put together a ‘New Year Intention Setting’ worksheet so we can all take a trip down memory lane and reflect on what this year has brought us (both the good and what we learned from the bad).

This is the perfect time to look ahead and start thinking about the energy we want to bring into 2021. I invite you to download and fill out the following worksheet to recap your year and look ahead to new and exciting beginnings. As always, be kind and gentle with yourself and remember that you are doing the best that you can do, and that is more than enough.

Wishing you all a very happy, safe, and healthy 2021!

XOXO

Gee Nicolette

2020 Holiday Movie/Show Recommendations

This holiday season, I was more excited than ever to start decorating, listening to holiday music, and watching movies/shows to get me into the spirit. This year has been…. well heavy. It seems like more people are going above and beyond with holiday lights and decorations to put a smile on the face of others and I am here for it.

Today, I’m sharing some feel-good holiday movies and shows to watch this season! Get your hot cocoa ready and put on a pair of comfy pjs as you plan your next movie night in. Please feel free to share your favorites with me as well!

Netflix

– Holidate

– The Princess Switch & The Princess Switch Switched Again

– A Christmas Prince, A Christmas Prince The Royal Wedding, and A Christmas Prince The Royal Baby

– A California Christmas

– The Christmas Chronicles

– Holiday In The Wild

– The Grinch

– This Christmas

– Midnight at the Magnolia

– Angela’s Christmas

– Holiday Home Makeover

– Dash & Lilly

– Sugar Rush Christmas

– The Great British Baking Show Holidays

– The Holiday Movies That Made Us

Hulu

– Happiest Season

– Holiday Baking Championship

– Holiday Gingerbread Showdown

Wishing you a safe and healthy holiday season!

Xoxo,

Gee Nicolette