You know how your mother or teacher always told you, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? Well this is true but what happens when people say things that aren’t nice? What are you supposed to do? I typically bite my tongue because I don’t like confrontation, but lately I have talked to many women about this specific topic and feel that it’s an important one to share. Skinny shaming. Yes, I said the word that people think doesn’t exist. Body shaming of ANY size is just wrong. Again, the whole if you don’t have something nice to say just keep quiet thing.
I think it’s important to share this topic because we have all been guilty of body shaming someone at one point, even if it was yourself. Every person is truly beautiful and unique, yet we are so focused on outside appearance and what size we aspire to fit into, that we loose sight of what’s on the inside. There’s a famous picture of Sophia Bush wearing a shirt that says “0 IS NOT A SIZE” and while I love her, I don’t support that statement. 0 is a real size just like every other size out there, I promise. Telling someone who is a size 0 to “eat a cheeseburger” will not magically make them a size 4. Just because you’re a size 0 and might not have a lot of curves doesn’t mean you’re not sexy OR just because you do have curves doesn’t mean you’re not sexy either.
I scroll through Instagram and see the Kardashians photos in their yoga pants and I can promise you, it doesn’t matter how many XXX you add in front of XS, I still won’t have those curves. For some reason I have associated curves with being “sexy”. I like to eat. A LOT. I love pasta, chocolate, and wine. I also love juice, yoga and vegetables. One day I might have curves or I may not, but it does not define what is meaningful in life. I have friends of all shapes and sizes and we don’t ask each other what our sizes are. Okay, only when we are shopping together and find an item that is on sale or too cute to pass up. I don’t care what size my friend is, when I need someone to talk to at 2am they are there.
I challenge myself and everyone else to stop focusing on size. Rethink your definition of beautiful and sexy. When you get out of the shower, stand in front of the mirror and admire your body for what it is and be grateful for everything it’s capable of; getting you up out of bed, walking, moving, etc.
More body love and self love.
Shirt: Spiritual Gangster. Find here
Denim Jacket: Ci Sono
Yoga Pants: T.J. Maxx
Photography: Ashley Dahl Photography