I go in spurts of writing blog posts, but it’s all for good reason. Something that I tend to do is work myself to the bone and take on WAY too many projects, especially before I take a vacation, because I know I will eventually get time to rest and relax. But hey, that’s who I am. I recently met some great people that have enhanced my life as well as my yoga journey. I am so grateful for these recent friendships as well as professional partnerships. On the contrary, I noticed that there are also people in life that tend to be negative and draining. I started to notice something about myself and that is that I apologize way too much for certain things.
If someone bumps into me, somehow I end up saying sorry. I say sorry for things I don’t even need to apologize for! One thing that I am done apologizing for is my beliefs and the values/morals I hold. Nowadays, you have to be careful what you say because you could offend someone’s political or religious beliefs. I am more of a live and let live type of person, but what do you do if someone attacks your beliefs? The yogi in me wants to say to send them light and love, but the stubbornness quality in me takes over and says something different.
My mom always told me that you can’t make everyone happy, and the older I get, the more I realize she is right (about everything). You have to live for yourself and live to make you happy. She also says that at the end of the day you have to lie your head down on a pillow and be happy with who you are. It doesn’t matter if someone supports your beliefs and views, it only matters if you believe in yourself.
So my intention for this week is to live YOUR life. “It doesn’t matter what others are doing, it matters what you are doing.” Since you can’t make everyone happy, might as well make yourself happy and leave it at that…and maybe think twice before telling someone else how to live their life. Everyone’s path and journey is different.
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You know how your mother or teacher always told you, “If you don’t have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all”? Well this is true but what happens when people say things that aren’t nice? What are you supposed to do? I typically bite my tongue because I don’t like confrontation, but lately I have talked to many women about this specific topic and feel that it’s an important one to share. Skinny shaming. Yes, I said the word that people think doesn’t exist. Body shaming of ANY size is just wrong. Again, the whole if you don’t have something nice to say just keep quiet thing.
I think it’s important to share this topic because we have all been guilty of body shaming someone at one point, even if it was yourself. Every person is truly beautiful and unique, yet we are so focused on outside appearance and what size we aspire to fit into, that we loose sight of what’s on the inside. There’s a famous picture of Sophia Bush wearing a shirt that says “0 IS NOT A SIZE” and while I love her, I don’t support that statement. 0 is a real size just like every other size out there, I promise. Telling someone who is a size 0 to “eat a cheeseburger” will not magically make them a size 4. Just because you’re a size 0 and might not have a lot of curves doesn’t mean you’re not sexy OR just because you do have curves doesn’t mean you’re not sexy either.
I scroll through Instagram and see the Kardashians photos in their yoga pants and I can promise you, it doesn’t matter how many XXX you add in front of XS, I still won’t have those curves. For some reason I have associated curves with being “sexy”. I like to eat. A LOT. I love pasta, chocolate, and wine. I also love juice, yoga and vegetables. One day I might have curves or I may not, but it does not define what is meaningful in life. I have friends of all shapes and sizes and we don’t ask each other what our sizes are. Okay, only when we are shopping together and find an item that is on sale or too cute to pass up. I don’t care what size my friend is, when I need someone to talk to at 2am they are there.
I challenge myself and everyone else to stop focusing on size. Rethink your definition of beautiful and sexy. When you get out of the shower, stand in front of the mirror and admire your body for what it is and be grateful for everything it’s capable of; getting you up out of bed, walking, moving, etc.
More body love and self love.
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We all know that each and every one of us is going through some shit. Times get tough and it’s easy to loose sight of what’s important. I’ve recently found myself “too busy” and making excuses of reasons why I can’t step onto my yoga mat. I’ve decided to start a yoga challenge during the month of June that is all about owning your shit. The good, the bad, and the ugly. Creating a challenge allows me to hold myself accountable for stepping onto my mat and the same goes for you! Stepping onto your yoga mat doesn’t mean that you have to do any chatarungas or master crow pose. It means that you take time out of your day for yourself… to process everything you’re going through or maybe try and forget everything. Whatever the reason may be, I invite you to join in on this challenge. Taking some time out of your busy day to do something for yourself is necessary. You might have to set your alarm a few minutes earlier or turn off that Netflix show a little sooner, but it will be worth it, I promise.
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