First blog post of 2020 and I’m thrilled to write about something that’s been on my mind for awhile now. The title of this post kind of says it all but I’ll break it down for you. Whether you’re single, dating, married, engaged, in school, working your dream job, just got fired, have kids, are having a hard time having kids or don’t want kids, you are doing the best that you can and are right where you are supposed to be.
Social media makes it easy for us to question where we are in life and wonder if it’s enough compared to all of the things we see people posting about. When scrolling through social media, try to remember that everything isn’t perfect in anyone’s life. Whatever you are doing is good enough and is right for you.
It’s important to celebrate all of the things in life that shape us to be exactly who we are. Getting engaged, married, having a baby, starting a new job, graduating school, etc. are all really exciting things to celebrate, but so is working through trauma, having the courage to start something new, focusing on self-care and your mental wellbeing, etc. What about celebrating getting through the week or a bad day? Pop some champagne, kombucha, green tea or whatever your drink of choice is and toast to you.
October came and went very quickly. If you’re new here to this blog, at the end of each month, I like to reflect on how it went. I see how I felt and set intentions to work on for the next month. Without further ado, here’s my intentions for November:
- Work on using more ‘I statements’
- Give myself 20 minutes to walk away from a situation and cool down when I’m feeling heated or triggered
- Drink more gut-friendly smoothies
- Get more use out of my oil diffuser and make some fall/winter blends
- Hug more
Below you’ll find my ‘Intention Setting Worksheet’ so you can join me in setting your own!
Outfit details: Sweater from Athleta, Scarf from Pink Jules, Hat from Squasht Boutique, Purse from Upstairs Boutique and shoes from DSW.
Is anyone else a ‘yes’ person? I tend to use this word way too often and forget that I have the choice to say ‘no’. I’ve found myself saying ‘yes’ to things I don’t even want to do!
I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a post that said “Stop saying yes to shit you hate.” This one really resonated with me because I am exactly that person (and I know many other people are too). I am always saying ‘yes’ because I never want to disappoint someone if I say ‘no’.
Most recently, I’ve realized that my cup runneth over and I don’t have enough time (or energy) to keep saying ‘yes’ to everything. That whole speech they give you before you take off on a plane about putting on your oxygen mask first before helping someone else, totally makes sense. We have to take care of ourselves before taking care of others. Show up for you first!
Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you selfish or weak. It also doesn’t mean that you need to give anyone a super long explanation when you say ‘no’ (something I’m still working on). Obviously, this advice should be taken with a grain of salt (please don’t tell your boss ‘no’ when it comes to finishing a project). Say ‘no’ to the things in your life that are taking too much of your energy and aren’t bringing you joy- Marie Kondo your time.
If you would rather stay in for the night because you’ve had a stressful week, then do that instead of going out. If you want to silence your phone because you are craving peace and quiet, go for it. It’s not always easy to say ‘no’, especially if you’re not used to doing it (take it from me). It takes courage, so be kind to yourself. Put yourself first once in awhile and give yourself what you need.