Stop Saying ‘Yes’ All The Time

Stop Saying ‘Yes’ All The Time

Is anyone else a ‘yes’ person? I tend to use this word way too often and forget that I have the choice to say ‘no’. I’ve found myself saying ‘yes’ to things I don’t even want to do!

I was scrolling through Instagram and saw a post that said “Stop saying yes to shit you hate.” This one really resonated with me because I am exactly that person (and I know many other people are too). I am always saying ‘yes’ because I never want to disappoint someone if I say ‘no’.

Most recently, I’ve realized that my cup runneth over and I don’t have enough time (or energy) to keep saying ‘yes’ to everything. That whole speech they give you before you take off on a plane about putting on your oxygen mask first before helping someone else, totally makes sense. We have to take care of ourselves before taking care of others. Show up for you first!

Saying ‘no’ doesn’t make you selfish or weak. It also doesn’t mean that you need to give anyone a super long explanation when you say ‘no’ (something I’m still working on). Obviously, this advice should be taken with a grain of salt (please don’t tell your boss ‘no’ when it comes to finishing a project). Say ‘no’ to the things in your life that are taking too much of your energy and aren’t bringing you joy- Marie Kondo your time.

If you would rather stay in for the night because you’ve had a stressful week, then do that instead of going out. If you want to silence your phone because you are craving peace and quiet, go for it. It’s not always easy to say ‘no’, especially if you’re not used to doing it (take it from me). It takes courage, so be kind to yourself. Put yourself first once in awhile and give yourself what you need.

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

Think Before You ‘Gram

Think Before You ‘Gram

A constant struggle for me (and I’m sure others out there) is knowing when to put down the phone and just enjoy the moment. Anyone else guilty of staging a scene so you can get the perfect Instagram photo? It’s exhausting. Always trying to make everything look like it’s ‘perfect’ when in reality behind the flat lay of beauty products is a messy bathroom with makeup all over and an overflowing laundry basket.

Recently, I was out to dinner with my boyfriend and when the food arrived to the table he pushed everything to the center so I can get a picture (he knows the drill). He knows by now that my Instagram followers see my food before I actually consume it, but for the first time in awhile, I told him to just start eating so we could enjoy the meal while it was freshly made.

While I think it’s great to snap some pictures to capture a moment you want to remember, it’s just as important to be present during those occasions and to enjoy special moments to the fullest. What if we minimized how much we share on our Instagram? What if we shared content with intention rather than searching for likes? I’m guilty of not sharing certain photos because I’m fearful they won’t get a lot of engagement.

Besides, Instagram is all about algorithms anyways so likes don’t mean much anymore. I love following accounts that use their platform for good. I would like to see more influencers doing that and using their voice and influence to make a difference!

Instagram and other social media accounts should be fun. Unfortunately, that’s not always the case when there are people who are struggling, triggered by certain accounts, being bullied, etc.

Live your life to the fullest. Sometimes that means taking some pictures and other times it means putting your phone away. Let’s all work on finding the balance in both! Don’t be afraid to unfollow accounts that are triggering or don’t resonate well with you!

Here’s some of my favorite accounts to follow:

What accounts do you follow for inspiration?

Think before you ‘gram.

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

Small Changes to Relieve Daily Stress

Small Changes to Relieve Daily Stress

Ever have those days that seem like you just can’t catch a break? You wake up feeling rushed and are in a hurry to get to your destination on time. I’m sharing a few tips to help relieve unnecessary stress (let’s face it, we can all shed some stress from our lives).

  1. Pick out your outfit the night before work. This is a big one for me! I feel more put-together when my outfit is picked out and I can get ready in the morning with ease.
  2. Unplug before bed. Give yourself 30 minutes to an hour before bed to stop scrolling through social media and let your mind (and eyes) rest before sleeping.
  3. Spend 5 minutes in the morning to yourself. Set your alarm clock 5 minutes earlier and be still. I like to sit in the dark with my oil diffuser on and enjoy the quietness before starting my day. It’s also a great time to meditate or get in some stretching.
  4. Breathing exercises. Spend time throughout your day taking deep breaths. Set reminders on your phone to take deep breaths (I like to count to 4 on my inhalations & exhalations). Release your tongue from the roof of your mouth. Relax your shoulders away from your ears. Unclench your jaw. Just let go of tension in your body.
  5. Drink water. Staying hydrated can keep your stress levels down. Enough said.
  6. Get your body moving. Get up and stretch, go for a walk or workout. Do something to clear your mind and get any built up tension out.

Wearing the Mantra Tee in Black and Black Mesh Legging from Joriki. My followers get 15% off with code: GINA15

Have any tips you want to share for stress relief? Comment below!

XOXO,

Gee Nicolette

Things to Leave Behind in 2018

Things to Leave Behind in 2018

There are many things that can occur in one year’s time. Those things teach us lessons and help us grow. While mental health awareness increases (which thank goodness for this), more people are ditching New Year resolutions and are starting to cultivate intentions. Intentions can be things that you want to leave behind from the previous year, things you want to continue doing/bring into the new year, setting boundaries for yourself/relationships, or maybe it’s coming up with a mantra that will help you focus on your goals and being happier. 
I’ve come up with a list of things I want to leave behind in 2018 as well as positive things that I want to continue to work on and bring into the new year. I encourage you all to spend some time meditating and doing the same! 
Things to Leave Behind:
-Always saying yes to stuff I hate 
-SO many memberships that I have and barely use (this is because I’m a “yes” person. I’m kind of like Ross and Chandler trying to quit the gym). 
-Unrealistic expectations 
-Comparing myself to others 
-Gender norms 
-Control and the need for perfection
-Mental health stigmas 
-Overthinking
-Toxic people 
-Overscheduling
Things to Bring into 2019:
-Yoga (obvi)
-More charity work and giving back
-Good belly laughs
-Quality time with loved ones
-Tea drinking habits 
-Wine 
-Meditating 
-Celebrating all things both big and small
-Continued learning  
-Supporting small businesses
-Getting rid of things I don’t need (one step at a time with this, especially the shoes and purses)
-LOVE
If you are interested in learning more about intention setting and journaling, come to my yoga and intention setting workshop with Joriki Clothing. A portion of ticket sales will benefit mental health and awareness organization, NOSTIGMAS. Purchase tickets here.
HAPPY NEW YEAR!
XOXO,
Gee Nicolette
Mental Health Awareness is Badass

Mental Health Awareness is Badass

I personally feel that us Millennials are going to change the world, one avocado toast at a time. All kidding aside, I think our generation is making it a point to open up and discuss difficult conversations. One of these being mental illness and the struggle many of us face on a daily basis. Talking about mental health used to be taboo, but is becoming discussed more often, as we all know someone that is impacted by this or feel it ourselves.
There is heightened awareness on the importance of self-care, but that looks a little different to each of us. Self-care for some is taking a bubble bath, while for others it may be going for a run. For me, self-care involves yoga, breath work, or sometimes a good nap. I started practicing yoga in college as an activity to do with my roommates (because it was a free class), but fell in love with it the more I practiced. I enjoyed that someone reminded me to breath for an hour. Inhale, exhale. It was exactly what I needed, especially since I am anxious majority of my life and don’t always take deep breaths throughout the day. When I feel on the verge of a panic attack, I try to using the breathing (Pranayama) techniques that I’ve learned in yoga (I highly recommend looking up and trying the following: Nadi Shodhana, Ujjayi, Belly Breathing, Kapalabhati, and 4-7-8 Breathing).
Being the avid clothing shopper that I am, I love supporting brands that make an impact and have an important mission. I recently came across the company, Own Your Stigma on Instagram. As soon as I followed them, I received a sweet message with a quote and reminding me that it’s okay if you aren’t doing okay. I just loved this because it’s the reminder we ALL need to hear. It’s okay to not be okay all of the time, but know that it will get better. I also think social media makes us feel that we need to always be doing something fun, exciting and instagrammable.
About Own Your Stigma:
Own Your Stigma was created to start opening up conversations about mental illness and to remove any shame or guilt that society has attached to it. They are even more badass because they donate 15% of all purchases to charities that support and provide help to people struggling with mental illnesses. “Be brave enough to start a conversation that matters.” 
Own Your Stigma is generously offering a coupon code for my followers use promo code GINA10%OFF to receive 10% off your next purchase!
Let’s keep the conversation about mental health going and be the support system someone needs!
XOXO,
Gee Nicolette 
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